How Do We Communicate Better?

  Open communication ought to be a part of every relationship. Use the tips. Be careful using these hints if you are in an unhealthy or abusive relationship. You know your relationship. Do not try them, if any of these suggestions would place you in danger.

For more healthy communication, attempt to:

     Find the Appropriate Time. If something is bothering you and you want to have a conversation about it, it can be useful to find the
correct time to talk. Look for a time when both your spouse and you are not distracted, stressed and calm or in a hurry. You may think about scheduling a time if both or one of you is busy speaking! Talk Face to Face. Avoid talking about serious issues or problems in writing. Emails, letters and text messages can be misinterpreted. Speak in person there are not any miscommunications that are unnecessary. If you are having trouble collecting your ideas, think about reading them out loud and writing them down.

     Don’t Attack. Even if we mean well, we can sometimes come across as harsh due to our word choice. Using “you” can seem like you are attacking, which will make your spouse defensive and less receptive to your message. Instead, consider using “I” or “we”. By way of instance, say “I feel like we have not been as close recently” instead of “You’ve been distant with me.” Be Honest. Agree to be honest. The truth hurts, but it is the secret to a relationship. Admit that you are perfect if you make a mistake rather than making excuses and apologize. You may feel better and it helps strengthen your connection. Assess Your Body Language. Let your spouse know you are listening by giving them your full attention: Sit up, confront them and make eye contact when speaking. Do not take a game when you are talking to a phone call, text or play. Show your partner you honor them by responding and listening. Utilize the 48 Hour Rule. If your spouse does something that makes you mad, you will need to inform them about it. However, you don’t need to do it straight away. If 48 hours after hurt, say something. If not, think about forgetting about it. But remember your partner can not read your
mind. There is if you do not speak up when you are upset. As soon as you do cite your spouse genuinely apologies and your hurt feelings, let it go. If they are not relevant, do not bring up issues.

How To Communicate If You Are Angry

It is okay to get mad in a relationship! What is important is that you solve conflicts in a way that is healthy. Here are a few steps to
consider, if you get angry with your spouse:

     Stop. If you get really angry about something, stop, take a step back and breathe. Tell your partner you want to have a break. Give
yourself time to calm down by watching TV, talking to a friend, playing with a game, taking a walk, listening or whatever helps you relax. Taking a break can keep the situation from becoming worse. Think. After you are no longer upset, consider the situation and why you have been so mad. Was it something that they did or your spouse spoke? Figure out the actual problem then consider how to describe your feelings. Talk. Finally, speak with your partner and if you do, follow the tips above. Listen. Once you tell your spouse how you feel, be sure to stop talking and listen to what they need to say. You both deserve the chance to express how you feel in a healthful and safe environment.

Communicating isn’t always straightforward. At first, a few of these tips might feel awkward or unnatural, but they can help you communicate and develop a relationship.